Just the other day someone asked me how my Hubby dealt with wedding planning 8 years ago. I said “great!” This guy looked at me like I had 6 heads. I said, why do you ask? He said felt like he was attending someone else’s event because he has had zero say on his upcoming “Big Day.” His idea on his tux was nixed, his idea of food was nixed. He had no say in his wedding. He said he knew it was mostly about his future wife, but he wanted to feel like he was a part of the process. Sounds fair to me.
My heart broke when I heard this. Weddings are about 2 people spiritually and legally joining their lives together. A wedding is about a couple creating a day that they will remember for a lifetime and as the day they truly started their lives together on. Yes, it can get chaotic with wanting a picture perfect wedding but it should never be about just one person. It should always about the couple. So what are some of my tricks to keep a wedding in the right perspective:
- Wedding Planning should be FUN!
- Remember this is not your Mother’s or Mother-in-Law-to Be’s wedding…its YOU and YOUR FUTURE SPOUSE
- Make sure your spouse-to-be has at least 3 elements off of his/her wish list included on your Big Day
- Take time away from wedding planning and chatter to have fun with your future spouse
- COMPROMISE…the key to being happily married is all about being able to find a happy medium so you might as well start while you are planning a wedding
- Make sure you HEAR and SEE how your future spouse feels about the wedding plans, after all he/she is the reason you are having this wedding in the first place
